This book teaches you the mechanics and spirit of Nonviolent Compassionate Communication to cure "Niceitis," a hereditary disease. It shows how being Mr. or Ms. Nice Guy or Gal is a form of violence to yourself and others, and an escape from a fully lived life. It takes you on a journey from the false choice of being either a depressed doormat, or an aggressive bully, to an effective, enlightened assertion of yourself. It provides principles and tools for self-responsible, non-judgmental, clear and conscious honesty.